This place is where I share personal stories and nuggets of insight having to do with relationships. You'll find personal life lessons that I have learned, research and education I've gleaned from others, and really just anything that I believe will be helpful to ... well, any human being.
Read on or follow this blog, and see what nuggets you may find for yourself ...
This video is an unexpected intersection of my profession and my side gig playing in an 80s cover band ... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VAhh5pQyFxU
I decided to take the TikTok plunge, so potential clients can get a better sense of what I look and sound like. Feel free to follow me for snippets of insight and advice on relationships, therapy, and relationships therapy!
So this brings up a new concern. Am I being manipulative in using this technique? Is it "sketchy" or unethical? I do admit that I'm being manipulative on some level.
In an expert-driven model, a mental health expert diagnoses your problems and offers you solutions. While this model can work for certain issues, over the past few decades now, there has been a shift away from the traditional expert-driven models and towards collaborative models of therapy.
The best we can do is understand that our partner may handle stress differently, that neither person is right or wrong. And then, we agree to let them deal with it in the way that works for them, but with the caveat that we attempt to at least communicate to each other.
I never had that moment where I realized I had fallen in love with her—you know, that Hollywood epiphany set to a slow-motion montage of her, accompanied by a syrupy love ballad.
And I wouldn’t have it any other way.