So this brings up a new concern. Am I being manipulative in using this technique? Is it "sketchy" or unethical? I do admit that I'm being manipulative on some level.
In an expert-driven model, a mental health expert diagnoses your problems and offers you solutions. While this model can work for certain issues, over the past few decades now, there has been a shift away from the traditional expert-driven models and towards collaborative models of therapy.
The best we can do is understand that our partner may handle stress differently, that neither person is right or wrong. And then, we agree to let them deal with it in the way that works for them, but with the caveat that we attempt to at least communicate to each other.